“The intimate community of life and love which constitutes the married state has been established by the Creator and endowed by him with its own proper laws. . . . God himself is the author of marriage.”87 The vocation to marriage is written in the very nature of man and woman as they came from the hand of the Creator. Marriage is not a purely human institution despite the many variations it may have undergone through the centuries in different cultures, social structures, and spiritual attitudes. These differences should not cause us to forget its common and permanent characteristics. Although the dignity of this institution is not transparent everywhere with the same clarity,88 some sense of the greatness of the matrimonial union exists in all cultures. “The well-being of the individual person and of both human and Christian society is closely bound up with the healthy state of conjugal and family life.”89
God who created man out of love also calls him to love the fundamental and innate vocation of every human being. For man is created in the image and likeness of God who is himself love.90 Since God created him man and woman, their mutual love becomes an image of the absolute and unfailing love with which God loves man. It is good, very good, in the Creator’s eyes. And this love which God blesses is intended to be fruitful and to be realized in the common work of watching over creation: “And God blessed them, and God said to them: ‘Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.’”91
Holy Scripture affirms that man and woman were created for one another: “It is not good that the man should be alone.”92 The woman, “flesh of his flesh,” his equal, his nearest in all things, is given to him by God as a “helpmate”; she thus represents God from whom comes our help.93 ”Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.”94 The Lord himself shows that this signifies an unbreakable union of their two lives by recalling what the plan of the Creator had been “in the beginning”: “So they are no longer two, but one flesh.”95
Paragraphs 1603 through 1605, Catechism of the Catholic Church
Couples who wish to be married at St. Margaret must meet certain criteria and adhere to specific policies. Some policies are set by the Diocese of Tucson and some are specific to St. Margaret.
St. Margaret only prepares active and registered parishioners for the Sacrament of Matrimony. (Active means attending Mass, using tithing envelopes, and/or volunteering at St. Margaret.)
We typically reserve the use of our church for the weddings of parishioners. In keeping with our Catholic understanding of the sacramental life, it is most appropriate for couples to prepare and wed at the church they attend.
Remind your photographer that there is no photography or videography permitted during the Mass (photos are allowed during the processional and recessional, and group shots may be taken in the church afterwards.)
To be eligible for marriage preparation at St. Margaret:
- If not registered and living within parish boundaries, couples must register prior to seeking permission from the pastor to begin marriage preparation. The pastor reserves the right to prolong preparation based on circumstances.
- If not registered and living outside the boundaries, couples must register and be active for six months before they seek permission from the pastor to begin marriage preparation.
- Marriage preparation is at minimum a nine-month process. The first step in preparation should be contact with the pastor for approval and admission to the program.
Couples are strongly advised to refrain from setting a date with venues/vendors until the pastor approves and confirms the date at the church.
Please note that we only work with the couple. Phone calls from friends and family will not be accepted.
The goal of the marriage preparation process is to educate couples on the full truth of the Church’s teaching on the sacred and sacramental nature of marriage and family life and provide them with the tools for a fulfilling and successful marriage.
For more information about these programs, please visit https://www.diocesetucson.org/FamilyLifeMinistries.html
To begin marriage preparation, please contact the parish office to request an appointment.
Holy Orders is the sacrament through which the mission entrusted by Christ to his apostles continues to be exercised in the Church until the end of time: thus it is the sacrament of apostolic ministry. It includes three degrees: episcopate, presbyterate, and diaconate.
Paragraph 1536, Catechism of the Catholic Church
Those baptized members of the Church seeking ordination or discerning a vocation to the religious life should contact the Diocese of Tucson Director of Vocations,
Fr. Ricky Ordoñez @ [email protected]
All the sacraments, and principally those of Christian initiation, have as their goal the last Passover of the child of God which, through death, leads him into the life of the Kingdom. Then what he confessed in faith and hope will be fulfilled: “I look for the resurrection of the dead, and the life of the world to come.”184
The Christian funeral is a liturgical celebration of the Church. The ministry of the Church in this instance aims at expressing efficacious communion with the deceased, at the participation in that communion of the community gathered for the funeral, and at the proclamation of eternal life to the community.
Paragraphs 1680 and 1684, Catechism of the Catholic Church
Parish Funeral Policies
Usually the family contacts a mortuary first. If a family calls the parish first, we will ask them to call a mortuary of their choice. The parish does not recommend any particular mortuary, or cemetery. (Many Catholics prefer to be buried in a Catholic cemetery, but this is not mandatory.)
Funeral rites should never be scheduled without consulting the parish first. Every effort will be made to accommodate the family’s needs. Please call the office at (520)622-0168 for scheduling a mass. Funerals are not permitted on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation, or Thursday through Saturday of Holy Week. (This is the custom of the whole Church, and there are no exceptions.)
The Order of Christian Funerals [Catholic Funeral] is divided into three (3) parts:
- Vigil for the Deceased [wake]. This includes visitation and a Service of the Word (not the Rosary). The rosary may be included in the service or it may be said privately. The visitation and service is recommended but not mandatory.
- Mass of Christian Burial. This Mass is strongly recommended for all Catholics. For serious reasons it may be omitted. The Mass can be celebrated with the body or cremated remains present, or as a Memorial Mass without the body or cremated remains. All Masses must be celebrated in the Church.
- Rite of Committal (rites at the cemetery). These are rites at the cemetery if the body or cremated remains are buried in a plot or mausoleum. For good reason this rite can be omitted. Ordinarily, military rites should precede the Rite of Committal.
The presider of Mass of Christian Burials at St. Margaret Roman Catholic Parish is Fr. Abrán Tadeo.
Non-Catholic clergy may have limited participation at the rites, but always at the discretion of the pastor or presider.
Music at funerals is the responsibility of the Director of Music. Ordinarily, he will provide music/singing at all services. Any request for outside musicians and cantors must be cleared with the pastor and Music Director Jim Weingart (520)237-3374 or e-mail [email protected]. Music for the funeral is to be planned by the Music Director with the family. Last minute requests or changes may not always be possible.